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Built on the Rock

Third Thursday Monthly: 8 – 8:30 a.m.
WNDZ 750 AM

Hosted by Fr. Britto M. Berchmans and Sandra Labouvie, this 30-minute show will attempt to help listeners fashion their marriages and romantic relationships using the best insights of marriage experts, leading people to build their relationships solidly on the Rock that is Christ. The show uses wisdom from psychology, the well-tested insights of experts, real life experiences of couples and the well-considered observations of priests. There are healthy doses of humor, and at all times all our discussions are firmly rooted in our faith.

UNLESS THE LORD BUILD THE HOUSE

Thursday, March 5, 2015
On this program we interviewed Dr. Matthew and Barbara Spiewak, parents of six children, two of whom have special needs. They shared the challenges of their efforts to balance his medical career with their desire to have a family that is built on a strong Catholic faith. Their commitment to adoration has been a source of strength for them. You will smile when you hear their attempts at the family Rosary time as well as their “date nights” at the kitchen table when the children are in bed. The Spiewak’s give witness to Psalm 127: “Unless the Lord build the house, they labor in vain who build.”

THE GIFT OF FORGIVENESS

Thursday, February 12, 2015
This program concluded the extended discussion on conflict management in marriage by focusing on forgiveness. In the prayer that Jesus taught us, we are instructed to “forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.” The wisdom of the book Five Steps to Forgiveness by Dr. Everett Worthington was discussed. The program concluded with the understanding that the infinite mercy and love of God empowers us to “let go of our ego” and to forgive others.

FIGHTING FAIRLY

Thursday, January 1, 2015
This program was the third installment on the shows dealing with conflict management for married couples. Every couple faces the challenge of conflicts and disagreements. The secret to success is to understand some rules for fighting fairly and with love and respect for each other. It has been said “Don’t waste a good fight by not leaning from it.” Eight rules for fighting were discussed. Talking about your feelings not your spouse’s faults, sticking to one topic, listening with all your powers and remembering that you are on the same team were some of the suggestions. Using physical abuse to resolve conflicts is never tolerated or accepted. Additional resources were also provided.

WARNING SIGNS

Thursday, December 4, 2014
In continuing our discussion about the importance of healthy conflict resolution in marital relationships, we specifically addressed six warning signs of unhealthy communication habits that can lead to continuing strife in a marriage. The concept of a “harsh start-up” is usually a precursor to conflict. In addition, criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling are considered the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” for marital relationships. Finally, the concept of “failed repair attempts” was discussed. Couples who see these behaviors in their marriage should work to break this cycle of negativity.

AGREEABLE DISAGREEMENTS

Thursday, November 13, 2014
On this show we examined the interview we conducted with Tony and Mary Stallone. We felt that this couple gave positive witness to the way couples can grow in their relationship by learning to disagree in an agreeable way. Even though the Stallones got off to a rocky start in their marriage, their commitment to their faith in God and in each other, their sense of true partnership and their ability to see the humor in their life situations strengthened the bonds of the marriage. We began to examine the research of Dr John Gottman and discussed the first of four behaviors which signal unhealthy marriage relationships. Our next show will continue exploring this research and discuss the remaining three signs.

CONSTRUCTIVE CONFLICT

Thursday, October 2, 2014
Few, if any, marriage relationships avoid moments of conflict between husband and wife. In fact, the secret is not to avoid conflict but to learn how to manage it and build a healthier relationship because of it. In this show we interviewed Tony and Mary Stallone, a couple who has been happily married for 33 years. One of the secrets of their marriage is the way they have learned to argue and resolve their conflicts. This couple shared their experiences and offered their suggestions for how to fight fairly and lovingly and maintain a sense of humor in the process.

A Call to Greater Faith

Thursday, September 4, 2014
On this show, we elaborated on our interview with Kirke and Missy Machon. After 33 years of a successful and happy “mixed marriage”, Kirke decided to come into full communion with the Catholic Church through the RCIA. Just as Kirke was encouraged by the gentle promptings of his father-in-law, so Jesus calls us to be evangelizers. We also discussed Missy’s “re-Confirmation” of her adult Catholic faith and how Kirke embraced the Eucharist and the Social Ministry of the Church. Their journey of faith strengthened their marriage. Their story reminds us that parents are the first and best teachers of the faith for their children.

A JOURNEY OF FAITH

Thursday, August 7, 2014
On this program, we interviewed Kirke and Missy Machon, a couple who recently took a faith journey which resulted in Kirke coming into full communion with the Catholic Church at the Easter Vigil. Kirke was raised Presbyterian and Missy was raised Catholic. For the first 32 years of their marriage they practiced separate religions until Kirke discerned a call to learn more about Catholicism. In this show, Kirke and Missy describe what this journey was like for both of them in the past, how it impacted them during the RCIA process and how their marriage has been changed by this conversion.

DIFFERING COMMUNICATION STYLES

Thursday, July 3, 2014
This show addresses one of the fundamental differences between men and women: the manner in which they communicate. Communication for men is based on the need for respect and power. Women, on the other hand, are motivated by a need for connection. When women communicate they are sharing intimacy, emotions and seek a sense of connection. This show contains suggestions as to how one may strengthen a marriage relationship by understanding these differences. For, without love, a wife acts without respect and without respect, a husband reacts without love.

Good Grief

Friday, June 6, 2014
In this show, we reflected on our interview with Jim McCambridge, a faith-filled Catholic husband and father who tragically lost his wife, Maureen, a short five days after she contracted strep throat. Central to this discussion was an exploration of the subject of grief. We grieve because we have lost something we love and treasure. But we need to journey through our grief knowing that God is with us at all times. “Blessed are they who mourn for they shall be comforted” (Mt 5:4). We also addressed positive ways to deal with grief always knowing that the miracle of the Resurrection gives us hope.

Surviving the Storms of Life

Thursday, May 1, 2014
The Easter message is that pain, hardship and even death itself do not triumph. The Risen Christ has overcome all the darkness of life. Our suffering can be redemptive and transformative if it leads us closer to Jesus. In this episode we interviewed Jim McCambridge, a faith-filled husband who suffered and endured the loss of his spouse, Maureen. Jim gives witness to where God was during this time and where he is even now. His testimony gives married couples an example of what it means to have your "house built on the rock" of Christ and how it can survive the storms of life (Mt 7: 24-25).

The Role of Parents

Thursday, April 3, 2014
In this episode we discussed the role of parenting in healthy families that are built on the teachings of Christ. We looked at statistics that identified the increasing number of cohabitating couples and unmarried couples raising children. This is an alarming societal trend. We then discussed the role of parents as "gardeners" who can nurture and protect their children but realize that that they belong to God and "bloom" in God's time. Parenting is a most difficult responsibility and requires God's grace.

Building on the Rock

Thursday, March 6, 2014
In this show, we discussed our reflections on the previous interview conducted with Mary and Matt Englert. Mary and Matt are a newly married couple who are striving to build their marriage and relationship on the teachings of Christ. We were impressed with the importance of faith and family in their lives. In particular, the witness of faith that their parents provided them strengthened Mary and Matt in their decision not to cohabitate before the wedding. We also affirmed the role of prayer, communication, commitment and selflessness in this couple's effort to sustain a marriage that is for life.

Getting Off to a Good Start

Thursday, February 13, 2014
In this show, we interviewed Matt and Mary Englert, a young couple who have been married for only 7 months. This couple gave compelling witness to a marriage built on the rock that is Jesus Christ. From the role that prayer played in bringing them together to their their faith-inspired decision not to co-habitate before their marriage, this couple uses their faith in God and love for each other guide them through their relationship and the early stages of their married life.

The Holy Family A Role Model

Thursday, January 2, 2014
In this show we discussed how married couples can use the Holy Family of Nazareth as a role model for family life. The significant lessons that we can learn from Mary, Joseph and the infant Jesus arise not so much from their "perfection" as from their "holiness". Our families are holy when we all strive to stand open to the will of God. Joseph and Mary did all in their power to provide a safe haven for God made man. We should strive to do the same.

Spouses and Partners Continued

Thursday, December 5, 2013
On this show, we discussed the importance of a healthy partnership as an essential ingredient for a happy marriage. Based on our previous conversation with Dan and Mary Hogan, a happily married couple who are also successful co-workers, we touched on respect, communication and trust. We identified the need for space in the relationship as well as the importance of role modeling in creating healthy families built on the rock of Christ's teachings.

Spouses and Partners

Thursday, November 14, 2013
We often hear that spouses cannot work together. The couple that we interviewed in this show, Dan and Mary Hogan, prove that opinion wrong. Married for three decades, they clearly define roles and maintain a healthy marriage and an effective working relationship. The secret is always the readiness to communicate and compromise.

The Role of Children in Marriage

Thursday, October 3, 2013
On this show, we discussed the role of children in marriage from the interview with Karen and Chuck Maloney, the parents of five children. Children transform a marriage from “selfish” to “selfless”. Children are a blessing and a gift from God and parents’ efforts to make them God- centered truly builds that marriage on the Rock. The primary goal of parenting is to get our children to heaven. The sacrifice parents make in raising their children is also their reward.

Faith and Family Relationships

Thursday, September 5, 2013
The Archdiocese of Chicago has identified this year as The Year of Strong Catholic Parents. Faith filled parents create faith filled families. We were pleased to welcome Karen and Chuck Maloney, who strive on a daily basis to give witness to their faith while raising a family of five children. Our discussion included how these parents balance family responsibilities with attention their their relationship as husband and wife. Through their faith, family rituals and relationships, this couple is striving to raise "God first" children in a "me first" culture.

Reflecting on Marriage Commitments

Thursday, August 1, 2013
Our conversation with Bob and Chris Maszka was rich with spiritual insight and focused on three basic points: perseverance, prayer and sacrifice. To make a marriage last fifty years takes a lot of hard work. To persevere one has to practice a lot of patience and make many sacrifices. Perseverance is possible only when God becomes the center of the marriage relationship. Such a marriage is truly built on the Rock.

Marriage Commitments

Thursday, July 4, 2013
As we celebrate the Fourth of July, our minds turn to our independence. We are proud of our heritage as Americans because our republic is 236 years old. This show talks about marriage commitments that last a long time. We are in conversation with Bob and Christine Maszka who are celebrating fifty years of marital bliss. Their secrets to marriage longevity include: sacrifice, love, faith in the Lord, and a deep devotion to the Blessed Sacrament.

Sense of Humor in Marriage

Friday, June 7, 2013
In this show Fr Britto was joined by Deacon Bob Bulger who replaces Sandy Labouvie as co-host. Following our usual practice, we unpacked the insights shared by our guests at last month’s show: Paul and Chris Minasian. They basically called for a healthy dose of humor in marriage so that the spouses do not take themselves too seriously. The health of a relationship, they pointed out, can be gauged by the willingness of the partners to laugh together.

Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously!

Thursday, May 2, 2013
On this show, we had the pleasure of interviewing Paul and Chris Minaszian who shared with us how they are able to consistently infuse humor into their marriage relationship and their parenting. They try not to take themselves too seriously, and in the process, they are able to put problems in the perspective. We also said a sad goodbye to our cohost Sandy Labouvie, who will be taking a brief hiatus from our program. We wish her a speedy return to Built on the Rock!

Reflecting on Marriage as Partnership

Thursday, April 4, 2013
In this show, we discuss at length some of the great insights that were offered by our guests Deacon Bob and Kathy Bulger. Our focus was on marriage as partnership, and what an amazing example these two are! Among the great insights they shared with us, one that stood out was how they incorporated the Paschal Mystery into the ups and downs of married life. Just as Christ had to die and then rise again, marriage too sometimes goes through those death moments which always end in resurrection when they stand the test of time.

Marriage as Partnership

Thursday, March 7, 2013
In this segment of Built on the Rock, we were blessed to interview Deacon Bob and Kathy Bulger about their insights on marriage as a partnership. Bob and Kathy have been married for 39 years, and have raised two daughters. Throughout their years of marriage, they have learned that by tapping into each others' strengths, and supporting each other in their experiences, they have been able to keep a healthy partnership alive in their marriage. We will unpack their insights in our April show.

Affirmation and Appreciation in Marriage

Thursday, February 14, 2013
Unpacking our prior show's conversation with John and Shannon O'Brien, we delve deeper into the role that affirmation and appreciation play in healthy marriages and relationships. Learning what your spouse needs is the first step in affirming them. It is critical that spouses learn each other's "Love Languages."

Affirmation and Appreciation

Thursday, January 3, 2013
In this segment, the co-hosts, Fr Britto Berchmans and Sandy Labouvie, interview another great couple, John and Shannon O'Brien. The objective of the interview is to discuss the role of affirmation and appreciation in keeping a marriage healthy. John and Shannon have been married for 15 years and as the discussion demonstrates, have learned to appreciate and affirm each other all the time. They communicate in the particular "love language" that the other needs.

Reflecting Upon Prayer and Sprituality in Marriage and Family Life

Thursday, December 6, 2012
In our first show, we interviewed Andrew and Colleen Billing who shared with us many insights on how they've successfully built their 20-year marriage, keeping Christ at its center. Reflecting upon the insights they shared, we will provide listeners with very tangible steps that they too can incorporate into their marriages and relationships that will help root them firmly on the rock that is Christ Himself.

Prayer and Sprituality in Marriage and Family Life

Thursday, November 1, 2012
The first show focuses on the role of prayer and spirituality in marriage and family life. We interviewed a couple, Andrew and Colleen Billing, who have been married for twenty years. Their insights into the centrality of prayer can be helpful for many couples and those ideas will be the focus of our December show.

DEMETRA WILLIS

Monday, May 21, 2012
Demetra Willis spoke with us and shared her investment opportunities for listeners and a few wise words for listeners looking an opportunity to grow financially and spiritually
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